Emotional Changes in First Trimester

Emotional Changes in First Trimester

The first trimester is a huge change for mothers.  Sometimes the mother doesn’t even know that she is pregnant for the first month.  She may be more tired, her breasts may be tender and she may have to urinate more often.  It is a time of understanding and realizing that you are pregnant.  Some women are excited and joyful, some surprised and some may be unhappy if they have not planned or wanted a pregnancy at this time.

It is usually normal to be a little uncertain about being pregnant but it’s a good idea to talk to your midwife about how you are feeling.  She can help to guide you into how to let the baby know that it’s nothing against them, and mom has some things that she needs to work through.  Discuss your feelings with your midwife, partner or good friend.

It’s normal to feel nausea and heightened emotional sensitivity.  It is also normal to go from crying to laughing to angry back to crying again.  It’s just as normal to have periods of elation, and intense closeness with your partner, joy and a profound connection to living beings.

In the first trimester you might keep expecting your menses to start.  If you have a day when your breast tenderness or nausea subsides you might think that you are about to start bleeding.  It’s normal to think wow I’m pregnant and five minutes later to think the test was wrong!  There is no way that I am pregnant.

 

Information taken from “The Natural Pregnancy Book” by Aviva Jill Romm

“Mothering Magazine” Pregnancy & Birth Month by Month”

 

Emotional Changes in First Trimester

Emotional Changes in the Second Trimester

Emotional Changes in the Second Trimester

The second trimester is a very exciting time.  Your belly starts to show and your baby begins to move making you feel his or her presence more.  This movement makes the pregnancy more real for the partner as well and can make the connection between the both of you even more powerful.

The second trimester may bring on its own new emotions.  It is often a time of reflecting on your own childhood and your relationship with your mother.  You may want your mothers support during your pregnancy, but you may also evaluate what you want to do similar to what your mom did with you and what changes you will want to make.  It can also be a time of not wanting your mother as a part of things if you want a much different experience than she had and she is not giving you the support that you  want and deserve.

A common concern during the second trimester is a deep fear that something may happen to their partner and they will be left alone with a new baby.  To reduce your fears it’s a good idea to ask your partner to give you a call and let you know if he won’t be at an expected place at an expected time.  Clear communication from the mother about this can let the partner know how important of an issue this is for you.

The second trimester can bring on vivid dreams which may sometimes be unsettling.  Comments people make can sometime be inconsiderate during this time.  If something bothers you don’t hesitate to talk to your midwife about your dreams and feelings.

 

Information taken from “The Natural Pregnancy Book” by Aviva Jill Romm

“Mothering Magazine” Pregnancy & Birth Month by Month”

 

Emotional Changes in the Second Trimester

Emotional Changes in the Third Trimester

Emotional Changes in the Third Trimester

 

This period of 12 weeks is a time of deep transition. During the previous weeks the woman has been gradually becoming more comfortable with her pregnant body and mind and the baby she is carrying. Now, she begins the process of getting comfortable with the notion of separating from the baby. This is a crucial transition from being pregnant to being ready for the baby to come out and be born. Hopefully, the normal process of bonding with the baby inside has already occurred because now it is time to let go. The mother may become anxious, and exhausted of being pregnant. The mother busies herself with the work of nesting, getting the nursery set up, buying clothes, cleaning, organizing, and preparing the home. The baby is usually the foremost thought on her mind. She may be forgetful and “spacey” because of this. Daydreams can lead to thoughts of potential complications or anxiety surrounding the pain of labor. This is an intense time as the psyche can’t help but consider death and mortality in the face of birth, which can add to the concerns. If the mother is choosing a “natural” birth she may begin to pressure herself to “perform”. She feels obligated to have the perfect birth and be able to handle the unknown challenges of labor.

 

Physical changes may have the mother feeling “fat and ugly” as her belly is very full and she has a hard time getting around. Her sexual desires may plummet during this time because of feeling uncomfortable and awkward. If properly supported a mother at term can feel ripe and full, a goddess about to bring forth new life. Hopefully, this is how she feels about herself, strong and capable of labor and delivery. During  the third trimester a woman needs more rest and more calories to support the rapidly growing baby who does a lot of fattening up in the last month of pregnancy. This requires meticulous focus on self-care.

 

The midwife and the mother’s family and friends should offer lots of encouragement and support. Positive birth stories always help. She should be assured that all of her thoughts are normal ones and that her feelings of exhaustion over being pregnant are the kind of thoughts that are normal and mean that the pregnancy is close to an end.  Sometimes, women experience depression in the third trimester as a result of fears and anxieties. It is helpful to talk to other women who have experienced motherhood for support. A mother who is at her due date or “over” may feel increased anxiety and impatience. At this time it is nice to give her some distractions like fetal movement records and fun things to try to get labor going, such as orgasms, hikes or belly dancing.

 

Emotional Changes in the Third Trimester